oriental is not potentially outdated, it is outdated and racist. i think you should engage in fairplay.
im being called on left and right for the tone of my posts, my spelling/shortcuts (sheesh, I dont care).
Your tone is antagonistic. Even now your demanding an apology from people when quite clearly what they said was never intended to insult you. You don't deserve an apology given these people didn't say it to insult you and quite honestly your manner makes me question if you are generally offended or if you are looking for a reason to get some moral high ground.
The fact Wolf Boy has admitted and brought up proof that the term might be deemed outdated or inappropriate is IMO more than enough to show he has the guts to admit when he's wrong.
In fact, you are the one who should be apologising for the "well I'm not surprised given where you are from" line - which was intentionally insulting to the member. His was anthropological mistake given we in the West largely have no idea "oriental" is an insulting term and he even admitted to discovering this could be a valid argument. You however make an intentionally insulting remark about his country based on a film about anthropological humour.
Come to the US or Europe you'll find people will refer to Oriental with no realisation it's offensive. We appreciate the heads up on this as I have no interest in offending anyone when there was no intention to, but drop the righteousness.
and yet wolfboy who said oriental and even confirmed that it is offensive (but didnt apologize) was not taken up to task for what he said. as someone who is asian i have every right to say it is offensive that he made an oriental joke.
Not when you know that he didn't make an oriental joke. We respect that it may have offended you and it's been quite clear the member in question understands that. This is a US message board, where what is offensive to people outside the US isn't quite as clear to many of it's natives. They are willing to learn but I see no reason why they should be chastised for saying something they had no idea was wrong. He's admitted you are right having gone to the trouble to see if there was any validity in what you said and I think you thereby have the pound of flesh you seek.
A little empathy please.
in my defense i never attacked anyone on such a personal level. the only one im really attacking is shayera, a character i rightfully despise.
I'm glad otherwise I would have had to warn you for doing so. As for Shayera - you "rightfully" despise? That's an odd term - it implies your hatred is righteous; that this isn't a debate but an attempt to teach people given you believe your opinion isn't just opinion, but fact. Now, this could be turn of phrase, but it's this sort of comment that is causing ... problems. People don't feel you are here to debate opinion, but dictate your fact. You do that a lot, and people don't react well when ANYONE does that! Now, again, it's your call whether you approach your debating like that, but don't be surprised when it doesn't make any friends.
granted anyones personal attacks against me dont affect me. but i do feel like im being called upon because many members are pro-shayera. thats just my theory.
I would say it's more how you present your opinion rather than people being pro-Shayera. I'm not pro any JL member. Honestly, I don't care enough to bother and I can see why people get a little irritable - because as I said, you are very antagonistic and defensive - you can be very sharp and cutting with others, and very defensive about yourself. I mean, come on, when you label everyone "pro-Shayera" because they have issues with your standpoint, how do you expect people to react? That's just insulting, implying that the only reason people don't agree is because they are just frantically into Shayera and won't listen to anything else.
This is your choice, but I would honestly recommend you look at how you are presenting yourself here before labelling others. Granted, I'm not happy that people have risen to frustration and I don't condone anyone getting personal (we will speak privately to anyone who does), but I do feel there is a great deal you could do in your approach to debating that would get a less negative response.