Which side do you take?

[aznbandit16]

If you have two close friends who are mad at EACH OTHER...and you're like in the middle of it because they're both ragging about each other to YOU because they know you're the closet to them and will think YOU will take their side...what would you do?

If you didn't understand that...just say NAY xDD

 

[redDragon]

Well it depends completely on the circumstances. I side with whichever side makes the most logical sense and that coincides with what I think. Now this will always make one party mad but hey, they asked you to step in and choose a side. Generally it's best to stay neutral unless you absolutely have to.

 

[Kagetsu]

That's actually rather easy. While I can't seem to look at my own anger issues objectively, other peoples are no problem. The best is not to take sides, but listen to how each perceives the problem. Don't even try to present the others point of view because that's not what's being delt with, Take into account how you understand the emotions of the one you're talking to, sympathise with their feelings, because however irrational they are real to this person, and guide their anger so that they understand it. This last part is hard as you're not agreeing they are right, but understanding why they feel this way and if possible show how it doesn't damage their ego. but yea, lots of luck with that one.

 

[purplehairedwonder]

The best thing is to not take sides if at all possible. Listen to both sides, but don't necessarily agree with either of them. Do your best to understand how each of them are feeling and try to soothe them. The problem is not with you, so it is not your responsibility to fix it for them. I understand the feeling of loyalty to both sides, but if you take a side you risk losing the other friend.

 

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Just listen and don't take sides. If all three of you ever meet and they ask you to take sides, just shrug and say "I dunno."

 

[Perry]

Tell them both to stop...

 

[J'onn J'onzz]

If you have two close friends who are mad at EACH OTHER...and you're like in the middle of it because they're both ragging about each other to YOU because they know you're the closet to them and will think YOU will take their side...what would you do?

If you didn't understand that...just say NAY xDD

What are they mad at each other about?

 

[Ickis]

It depends on the situation. If something like that were to happen I'd just try to ease down their anger so they forget about the problem and move on.

 

[aznbandit16]

What are they mad at each other about?

about giving homework early and the other friend disagrees because it's not "fair" to the other kids but then my other friend thinks that no one cares who gets homework cause they're all gunna be doin it anyways.

 

[Antiyonder]

If you have two close friends who are mad at EACH OTHER...and you're like in the middle of it because they're both ragging about each other to YOU because they know you're the closet to them and will think YOU will take their side...what would you do?

I don't recall ever dealing with it, but iI would tell them in big bold letters:

SHUT UP AND GET SOME THERAPY!!!!!!!!!!

See, I have a low tolerance for people who make excuses and/or putting their problems on each other as opposed to dealing with it. IMO people who choose excuses over responsibiility are useless.

 

[Temple Fugate]

I was in a situation like this several years ago. I had moved away to college, and two of my close friends stayed at home to go to the local community college. One of their moms was always taking them to class but since they were seeing each other every day for long periods of time they began to grate on each other, and guess who got e-mails from both of them about the other?

I listened to both of them and found that they were both getting worked up over nothing important and after a month decided to take matters into my own hands. I basically told both of them exactly what the other was saying and they quickly discovered that neither of them had the right to complain when they were both being annoyed. I told them to stop complaining to me and to sort it out themselves. They had a long argument from what I'm told, but after a few days they conceded and it's been pretty much fine since then.

A little communication goes a long way. Sometimes two people just need a mediator to get them to listen to the other side. Just make sure that YOU choose BOTH sides.

I'm not sure I understand what this homework situation is about...one of them is getting homework assignments earlier than the others? I've never heard of that kind of thing. At any rate, it sounds like nothing to get worked up over. Try and find the good points and the bad points to both sides and you should be able to figure out what to do.

 

[Scythemantis]

Wow, there sure is a lot of talk here for something that has such a simple answer: SCREW THEM. Stop caring. It's the easiest thing in the world. Tell them both that they're pissing you off and you don't want to see or hear from either of them until they learn to keep their insipid, infantile problems to themselves.

Practice the following:

"Shut up and deal with it."

"That's nice, why do I care again?"

"Can't you see I'm trying to watch TV?"

 

[tb4000]

Wow, there sure is a lot of talk here for something that has such a simple answer: SCREW THEM. Stop caring. It's the easiest thing in the world. Tell them both that they're pissing you off and you don't want to see or hear from either of them until they learn to keep their insipid, infantile problems to themselves.

Practice the following:

"Shut up and deal with it."

"That's nice, why do I care again?"

"Can't you see I'm trying to watch TV?"

Then the poster loses both friends in the process. Dead weight anyway, right?

 

[ElBarto]

dont pick "best" friends.

 

[Scythemantis]

Then the poster loses both friends in the process. Dead weight anyway, right?

Now you're catching on!!!



No realistically if they care about their common friend at all they'lle realize they're wrong to bring it all down on one person and come back when they're sane again.

 

[Stuckey]

Side with the more submissive of the two.

 

[Areku]

If you have two close friends who are mad at EACH OTHER...and you're like in the middle of it because they're both ragging about each other to YOU because they know you're the closet to them and will think YOU will take their side...what would you do?

If you didn't understand that...just say NAY xDD

I had this before, back in the day my 2 best friends hated each other. It didnt help that we all lived in the same building. Anyways i was stuck in the middle untill i moved, i didnt pick sides thought. i tried to "make them up" a few times but it didnt work. My advice is, just hang out with both of them and hope that they will make up soon.


The funny thing is that like 4 years passed already and they still dont like each other, but at least they dont fight when they see each other.