Friendships, the rough side

[aznbandit16]

Does anyone think that friends should give up every friend for just ONE special friend?

Cause my friend seems to care so much that she would always have me as her first friend. I think it's wonderful but then I feel like I'm centered and if I go hang out or sit with other friends, she gets mad or feels sad that I didn't sit with her.... I love having multiple friends though, it's great to make friends from different cliques, you have different views and opinions. And you have more than one person to go to get advice from.

What should I do? We've been at each other for like a month now.... o-o And it's getting kinda of tiring, I want to hang with other people too D: But then I feel bad cause she's sad that I didn't see her.

EDIT:-----
I believe, as my brother-in-law explained to me, that no one should give up ANY of their friends just for one person because it's like you're thinking that you'll get all the happiness and needs FROM that certain person...and idk if that's even possible. o-o It's good to have a lot of friends and as they say "you can never have too many friends"...

 

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Does anyone think that friends should give up every friend for just ONE special friend?

Cause my friend seems to care so much that she would always have me as her first friend. I think it's wonderful but then I feel like I'm centered and if I go hang out or sit with other friends, she gets mad or feels sad that I didn't sit with her.... I love having multiple friends though, it's great to make friends from different cliques, you have different views and opinions. And you have more than one person to go to get advice from.

What should I do? We've been at each other for like a month now.... o-o And it's getting kinda of tiring, I want to hang with other people too D: But then I feel bad cause she's sad that I didn't see her.

Bring her along with you when you hang with other people.

EIther that or get her to admit that she loves you and just wants to be your girlfriend.

Eh, you are a guy, right?

EDIT: No, you are a girl. Well, I'll just let this post stand. Who knows about your friend, anyway??? LOL

 

[Kagetsu]

hmm, there's a thought

Anyway, back when I had friends, there were some that I just couldn't mix. People are like that. I've found three friends that like each other is best. But people are all different, Try your best to not loose freinds even if they don't like your other friends. If they are to the point that they can be hurt that you're not their exclusively, you're likely to have trouble with them sooner or later. it's a form of "controlling behavior". I seem to attract needy people because I'm quiet and non-judgemental. (couldn't tell that online could you) They are people that are emotional drains and you just have to avoid them sometimes.

 

[Kaoru]

Does anyone think that friends should give up every friend for just ONE special friend?

That way I'd probably have no friends whatsoever. I forgot how to make friends since I was a young kid.

 

[Elven Moon]

Myself, I would prefer a very small group of close friends, rather than 10 or so "so-so" relationships.

 

[Kagetsu]

Myself, I would prefer a very small group of close friends, rather than 10 or so "so-so" relationships.

Yes, if you can get what you want emotionally. I wonder if people in large groups of 'friends" don't find that they break down into a group of three or four. In a group I find I only deal with one or two at any particular time. It has the advatage of shifting to a new group everyso often, but I don't do that well. I find if I don't get talked too in a group, I tend to move off by myself.

Thinking about things like this awhile. I found that I look to fill certian catagories.

There's the friend that seems to be like me. Yea, I'm surprised I find anyone like that too. I tend to tell them everything, good, bad and completely out there. I don't expect much else from them but their time, that tehy won't turn against me or lie to me. They are very rare and have to be exceptional people.

There are mentors. They're usually older and have done things that I want to do. I'm a knowlege leech to them, but they make my life better because they can do things I couldn't ever do on my own. They became a large part of my life for a few years and made things bearable.

There are admirers. As I am to mentors, they are to me. They want my knowlege. Which I enjoy freely giving because it just boosts my ego and makes my karma less dark. I can't be around them all the time because they can be emotionally draining.

There are the ones of necessity. These I don't like. I move to them when I'm alone in a crowd. This darkens my karma everytime and I'm better off being my naturally lonely self. Luckily I've broken myself of even trying to pretend to fit in with those. but in geral appearence it makes me look unapproachable to anyone.

Human relationships are so darn hard for being as social as we're supposed to be.

 

[purplehairedwonder]

I don't think it's right to be forced to give up other friends for the sake of one. I know there are some friends that shouldn't mix, but that doesn't mean you can't have the best of both worlds. Since coming to school I haven't made any close friends, but I have 10 people I've met that I like to hang out with but we're not close by any stretch of the imagination. My best friends live elsewhere. So I guess in that case I have both worlds as well.

 

[Kury Wagner]

First, friends rock.... but if you have to change for them, screw 'em. Bending or hiding yourself is sometimes fine though. =P

Does anyone think that friends should give up every friend for just ONE special friend?

Absolutely not. You need different people for different moods. I have several acquaintances that know different sides of me. And yeah, it'd probably be a bad idea to throw them all together, so I keep them separate.

Cause my friend seems to care so much that she would always have me as her first friend. I think it's wonderful but then I feel like I'm centered and if I go hang out or sit with other friends, she gets mad or feels sad that I didn't sit with her....

Wow, clingy. If she doesn't get along with your friends, there's nothing you can do. But tell her that you're not going to give up your life for her. I'm sure you like this gal a lot, or else you wouldn't be worried about this situation, so try and figure out a plan. Make time just for you and her, maybe.

Unfortunately, friendships often don't feel like two-way streets. There's too much taking, not enough giving, from the other person. At least for me, it is. Lately, I've been giving up on all the pomp. Mainly because I'm finally comfortable with who I am, and I'm tired of giving a damn about if other people like who I am. It's the people who stay friends with you once you lower your walls that really count. Those are the friends I love.

No, you are a girl. Well, I'll just let this post stand. Who knows about your friend, anyway???

Oddly enough, though, you make a fairly good point. Though not physical, this gal is probably seeking affection, regardless. It's not that she's trying to be rude and steal her away from everyone else, she's just lonely, herself. Even if she has a bunch of friends, she might be seeking a deeper friend.

Myself, I would prefer a very small group of close friends, rather than 10 or so "so-so" relationships.

Why not both? I have both. I have the couple people that I'm so close to, I consider them like family, and then I have many acquaintances that I'm nice to and all that, but they're just fellow people.

Human relationships are so darn hard for being as social as we're supposed to be.

Lets all befriend goats. If they get annoying, just eat 'em. Or sell 'em. =d

Since coming to school I haven't made any close friends, but I have 10 people I've met that I like to hang out with but we're not close by any stretch of the imagination.

Ditto to this. I'm very different from most of the people at my school, so it's hard to connect as anything other than people to chatter with. Sad, but feh.

 

[Kagetsu]

Gotta say it

Lets all befriend goats. If they get annoying, just eat 'em. Or sell 'em. =d

Alas poor Baaa-by, a friend of infinite jest. Who wants barbque? [/ROFL]

 

[MEGA TON]

I have somewhat the same relationship with my other friend. She would get upset about the little things that I do and wouldn't do with her. Sometimes it is hard but it helps to talk about things that trouble your relationship. I know it's probably easier to stick your thumb in your ears and hum really loudly but still in the long run you get closure faster.

 

[IceProphet]

It doesn't work that way.

You have 1 special/best/close friend, a small group of friends, and several acquaintances.

 

[Dr. OneWay]

Cause my friend seems to care so much that she would always have me as her first friend. I think it's wonderful but then I feel like I'm centered and if I go hang out or sit with other friends, she gets mad or feels sad that I didn't sit with her.... I love having multiple friends though, it's great to make friends from different cliques, you have different views and opinions. And you have more than one person to go to get advice from.

Kristi, is this that one chick thats always all over you during lunch. The one that if I say something to you, she feels like I'm taking you away from her or something. The one that you always meet in the band room. Damn this, I should've seen this earlier.

 

[aznbandit16]

Kristi, is this that one chick thats always all over you during lunch. The one that if I say something to you, she feels like I'm taking you away from her or something. The one that you always meet in the band room. Damn this, I should've seen this earlier.

Haha yeah, but it's not your fault, it's mine and I think I've gotten it fixed so yeah babe, its alllll good XDDD

haha...X freakin D....

 

[Mr. Manager]

Does anyone think that friends should give up every friend for just ONE special friend?

No, not at all. I do, however, believe that it is better to have two-four close friends than having twelve friends that aren't very close.

Unfortunately, ever since I moved two years ago, I haven't made any close friends. I have about seven people I talk to a lot about things, but I have yet to make a close friend.

I'm very different from most of the people at my school, so it's hard to connect as anything other than people to chatter with. Sad, but feh.

That's exactly what it's like for me.